Letter from his wife made us cry, Hyderabad engineer Srinivas who was shot dead in US.

Sunayana Dumala wrote this on her profile:

“This is my first official blog post on Facebook, and it is with a heavy heart that I am writing these words. On the dreadful night of Wednesday February 22nd 2017, I lost my husband — my soul mate — my friend and my confidante. He was a source of inspiration, a support system not just to me but to any and all he got to know. He always had a smile for every one, respected all especially his elders. We met in August 2006 through common friends then connected on an online portal called Orkut – not a usual face to face introduction- and started liking each other instantly. He was so charming that I could not resist.

I am the baby of my house, being the youngest with two elder sisters. I grew up to be a carefree child. It was Srinivas who gave me the courage to pursue my dream of coming to the USA and studying, which made me the person I am today — an independent, self-sufficient and strong woman. I started working only recently, May 2016. He’d played a major role in me attaining a job, always encouraging and working with me though my disappointments, especially as I was starting back again after 4 years of a career break.

His passion was to constantly innovate in the the aviation industry. Here in America, he commenced is his career at Rockwell Collins, and he worked On Flight Control System especially on Primary Flight Control Computer that would change the way flights work with improved performances. He dedicated his life to this development. There were days he used to come home to have only dinner and leave for work again – only return around 2 or 3 in the morning. He was very happy at Rockwell and liked living in a small town like Cedar Rapids, Iowa. But we decided to move from there to a bigger city so that I could get a job and be able to pursue my dreams, as he was able to do for himself. Kansas was our instant choice, and we moved here with a lot of dreams. We built our dream home, which he painted, and installed the garage door. Doing any kind of work on his home gave him immense joy. This was the home that he had built to – for us and any kids we would have- was our first step to starting our family. It’s so unfortunate that this dream of ours is now shattered. All of this, because of one person, who did not think of the impact his deed would have on the victim’s family. When police came to our house that night and gave me the news of my husband’s life being taken away by a random shooter, I could not believe their words, it was so surreal. I asked them repeatedly, “Are you sure?”, “Are you telling the truth?”, “Did you see the man you are talking about?”, “Can you show me a picture to identify?”, “Is the man that you are talking about 6’ 2’’?” They were just nodding their heads saying yes. With no family here in Kansas and his brother in Dallas, my immediate reaction was to call his brother. When I called him to say what the police had just told me, he thought I was joking.

My friends were by my side and did not leave me for even a second. Friends drove from Cedar Rapids, Iowa, Minnesota, and St. Louis. Many flew from Denver, California, and New Jersey to say a final goodbye to their beloved and dearest friend, who was always only kind to them. Both his aunts from NJ and NY came to take care of me and him.

He would have turned 33 on March 9th, and we were planning to fly to NJ for his cousin’s engagement. He was excited and eagerly waiting for the event, and we had plans to shop this past weekend for the trip. Things turned out differently, I was on my way to India with him in a coffin.

We got married after 6 years of close friendship, and it was not an easy process. He had to convince not only his parents but also mine. He met my family multiple times to convince them that he was capable and suitable for their beloved daughter. He answered all their questions with a smile on his face. His charm was such that he instantly became one of the members of my family and became their favorite son-in-law, brother-in-law, and uncle. It is still unbelievable that he is not here.

He found happiness in simple things. One of his most favorite pastimes was watching TV, which he watched with so much passion and intensity. His favorite shows lately were Person of Interest and Indian Idol. He was a family man and liked to eat home-cooked meals. Every night, I used to pack lunch for him and myself. He used to hate packing for himself and used to give me the funniest explanations for not doing so. He would say, “If I pack my lunch, I would know what I would eat later on. But if you pack it, I will have that surprise element.” If anyone gave him a heartful meal, he would bless that person by saying, “Anna datha sukkhi bhava” (a saying in Telugu that translates to, “You made my heart happy with the food, so may God bless you”). This was something many of his friends picked up from him.

He really enjoyed Arnab Goswami during his lunch at work and was eagerly waiting for him to come on.

He loved kids and was an instant favorite of any kid. We were planning to expand our own family and had had a doctor’s appointment just a few weeks ago. One of the last thoughts that he shared with me were “Nani (his nickname for me), we need to save money if we have to end up going for in-vitro to conceive.” I am writing this as it sinks in to me that this dream of ours is now shattered. I really wish we had a child of our own in whom I could at least see Srinivas and make him like Srinu.

He always cared about what was happening around him, and he was very proud of Mr. Narendra Modi ji and India. He was sure that India had finally found the leader that could make India shine. This might seem unreal, but I know because there wasn’t a day that ended without him watching the news or reading multiple newspapers before going to bed.

Srinu was the epitome of optimism. That was his motto. I remember asking him why he’d chosen to pursue digital signal processing and electrical engineering for his master’s degree. He said, “I scored less in that subject in Bachelors of Technology and wanted to explore why I received a lower score.” That was his optimism.

He was really happy to see Sushma Swaraj as the external affairs minister — such a brave and courageous woman, and how quick she reacted for those in need. He must have never thought that he would be one among them one day. But knowing my Srinu, he would have felt very proud of you for helping us and his family in crisis. Thanks again, Madam. I wish I could meet both you and Mr. Modi ji and share his joy posthumously.

He was always worried about immigration and its laws. He followed them very closely over the internet. There were days when he used to talk about how it’s been quite a few years since we applied for our permanent residency card, and he didn’t know how much longer we have to wait for it. He used to say having one would give him the chance to explore even more his passion for the aviation industry. He very closely monitored the H4 EAD rule and did whatever he could do in his capacity for the rule to be passed – not just for me, but for every woman and for those who deserve a career and a chance to fulfill their dreams. He was filled with joy when the rule passed and was so happy that he said, “Nani, now you can work. It is not that we need the money, but it’s so that you can follow your own dreams and make your parents proud.”

His father had a very low-income job, and Srinivas was the middle son of three sons. There wasn’t a day that went by without him mentioning how hard his father worked to make his sons the way they are today, and that he would have to do a lot for his parents. I’m sure, Srinu, that you made them proud, and I wish you didn’t have to leave us. He was a loving brother to both his siblings, especially the younger one, whom he treated like his own son more than a brother. He was elated when the youngest got married back in November 2015.

From what I know or heard from his parents, himself, and his brothers, all three brothers were very naughty. I remember him saying that when the three started to laugh, they would be panicked that in next 5 minutes there would be a fight and something would be broken in the house. As their father was very strict and always wanted them to focus on education, he would always be pushing them to study and many a time would have to run after them to make them sit for their studies. The youngest and eldest always managed to escape first, and Srinu, would always stay behind and get the scolding of all three brothers.

As I mentioned in the press meet, whenever there was an incident involving someone dying, both of us got worried, and I many times spoke my heart to him. We came here to achieve and fulfill our dreams. He always assured me that if we think good, be good, then good will happen to us and that we will be safe. He used to hug me tightly and sleep giving me this assurance. Srinu, now that I have gotten used to that warm hug, I might not be able to sleep. That was the only place in the world that I could sleep without any worries or tensions.

I was able to see random acts of kindness at the Kansas City airport when people recognized me and hugged me. I met a dermatologist who said I changed the purpose of her life. Maybe that was the first win during this fight to spread to love.

I think I can just keep writing and finish a book, but that still isn’t enough to talk about you or the love that you spread around. I’m still trying to digest the fact that in one evening I became a widow from a wife.

Srinu, my love, I don’t know how I’ll be able to fill the void I now have created in my life, but I promise you I’ll never let you down. It is so funny that you were my editor for any important email I had written, but now, for the first time, I am having to do it myself.
I LOVE YOU, AND YOU ARE ALWAYS GOING TO BE MINE.

I wish that you had come home when I asked you to have tea. I have many unanswered questions, and I wish you would answer them, but the only way I could get those answers now is by coming to you and your new home on the other side. I don’t know when that day will come.

My sincere thanks to each one of those who are helping us cope with this loss. I thank, Garmin and its employees, for conducting the vigil and allowing me to speak and share my Srinivas with you all.

Thanks to Mr. Cliff Pemble, the CEO of Garmin, for speaking such kind words about my husband and his contribution to Garmin. I can’t express my happiness that you came to my home to pay your last respects to him, held my hand, and went all around the house hearing his stories. This shows me how important he was to the company. Also, Didier, Dave, Phil, Patrick, Garmin Legal Team, HR Team, and to all those sitting in the auditorium during the vigil, thanks a lot for your support.

Thanks to Mr. Frank, CEO of Intouch Solutions, for assuring me that I can take however long and still come back and continue my job. Thanks for coming home and delivering the message personally. Thanks to Katema, David, and every employee of Intouch Solutions, who came to console me and gave me the same assurance.

Thanks to the Mayor for your kind words, giving us the assurance, and making a personal visit to the house. Also, thank you for making sure we received the privacy we asked for. I was told by Congressmen Yoder and Senator Moran that you were trying to reach out to me. Thanks a lot for your concern and for working on my immigration status. This is my Srinu’s dream, and it is the least I could do for my Srinivas – fulfill his dreams through my eyes – and it is for this I have to come back to the USA.

Thanks to the Detectives and District Attorney Steve for working hard on this case and finding the culprit. I know you will make sure justice is served.

Thanks to the medical team that worked on Srinu and tried hard to revive him back. I truly wish that your efforts had succeeded and he was with us today.

I do not have words to express my gratitude towards Mr. Ian Grillot for what you have done. Thanks for having the courage and trying in whatever way possible to save my husband. When I am back in Olathe, I would like to meet you personally. You and your act of kindness will help me survive and still have the faith in love and spreading love and not hate. I hope you get well soon.

Thanks to all those communities that have come forward and have been praying for Srinivas’s soul and his family’s well being.

Thanks to the funeral home for being so considerate and obliging to our request of sending him to his house, the house that he had built with so many dreams. I have the good luck charm that you gave me. Thank you.

Thanks to the media and press for agreeing to not disturb us and for respecting our privacy. Thanks again, and keep up your good work. A special mention to Ms. Rajini Vaidyanathan
(BBC correspondent).

Thanks to people like Satya Nadella and Kamala Harris for supporting through your tweets. It means a lot to us. My sincere request to Mark Zuckerberg, Sundar Pichai, Satya Nadella, and many others to keep advocating your support for human rights. We need to spread love and stop this hatred. Today, it’s an employee of Garmin, tomorrow, it could be one of your employees, and I don’t want anyone to go through what my family and household went through.

Thanks to the Consular General Officers who expedited the process.

Thanks to the government of Telangana for giving us the assurance that his remains will be taken to his house without any problem, and we request the media in India to be considerate of our privacy.

Mr. Amitabh Bachchan sir, there wasn’t a party that ended without us dancing to your songs. Our friends used to fondly call us Amitabh and Jaya because my husband is 6’2’’ and I am 5 feet. My husband used to say that our kids should be as tall as Abhishek and Shweta. Shah Rukh Khan sir, he was a huge fan of yours, and he made sure we watched your latest movie, Raees. I need all your support to pass this strong message of spreading love and giving confidence to every foreign national that their fight will be listened to.

I will now ask same question — On what basis we decide a person is good or bad, and of course, it’s not based on the color of your skin. So what decides that? Many times, these issues are talked about for a few weeks and people tend to forget about them afterward, but the fight must go on towards eradicating hatred from the minds of people. So what is the government going to do to stop hate crime?

Lastly, to answer the question that is in every immigrant’s mind, DO WE BELONG HERE?
Is this the same country we dreamed of and is it still secure to raise our families and children here?

-Sunayana Dumala”

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122 COMMENTS

  1. Tears in my eyes remained for atleast 5 mins while reading this….GOD BLESS U….SUNAYANA
    guru sai pradeep Chintala

    • I don’t know what to say…. I really can’t dare to imagine ur condition right now… I am sorry for what u have gone through and going through…. I wish that u recover soon and come back to ur confidance that Mr Srinivas has given you…. may you fulfill his dreams , ur dreams and the dream of ur family…. loads of love and god bless u …

    • Same here. I couldn’t hold myself. May God give her immense strength. Heart touching letter. Each words were very expressive.

    • Cant stop my tears to rolled out while reading this, in a very heavy heart can just say this :
      Salute to u SUNAYANA , can imagine what could have gone to you while writing this, you are such a strong and brave lady. You are the most courageous woman in the world today.God Bless U ,,its very tough to hold urself at this point but keep all ur patience towards ur family and May his soul rest in peace..

  2. RIP Mr.Srinivas garu and Sunaina garu I feel proud of you. Ur blog tells us how ur husband has build u strong. His blessings nd love would always b around u nd make u move forward more stronger……

    • You are really brave woman your hubby he is in God Kingdom watching over you. You will be blessed with lots of blessing

  3. Can’t stop thinking about you …. Sunayana. .. great to share this to everyone. … Sometimes words also will get Numb …. can’t write more …. God bless you Dear …. May u will the inspiration from his soul to win the world …

  4. Feeling very sorry for the loss ur facing sunayana garu .may god give us his peace and courage to go ahead in lyf …. may Ur husband ‘s soul rest in peace

  5. Those r d inspirational words In ur letter mam every women shld feel it n b always strong in their lives Wat Eva might b their situation they come across.
    May his soul rest in peace.

  6. Tears rolled from my eyes like stream.i can say only to you take care and fulfill your loving husband’s dream.It is very easy to say all these words but to you it is a challenge.Be bold and go back to US and slowly accept the truth and live like SRinivas not like you.He will always with you. I can only say May his soul rest in peace that soul will guide you to fulfill your dreams.Lord sai will bless you.Takecare.

    • Dearest Sunayana….. The most courageous woman in the world today….please know that you are an image of the wonderful Mr.Srinivas….It is only through you now that he can live…..we are all with you….be rest assured….May this irreparable loss make you the empowered
      woman we all want to be

  7. Counting just stop the tears. Could totally imagine what the family is going through. May god be with your family and comfort you in this crucial time of yours. You said, he made you what you are today and going forward his soul would want you to only get better.

    He is in a better place – Heaven.

  8. We pray for the kindest blessing from the God to you and the bereaved family…It is a shocker and only time can heal the wounds…May his soul rest in peace…Our prayers

  9. Rolling tears, thinking about my family and my loved ones is my situation at the time I was abt to complete.
    Sunayanagaru, You havent simply explained the charm of Srinivas but you showed the world how we bond with our relationships..
    May all the peace and love be with you.

  10. It is very hard to convince you dear.i pray God to give enough strength to face your life.very hard to overcome this sad situation and if the criminal happen to see your letter he will also feel for his inhuman action.

    • Your story is very heat touching. It’s very sad to know that god had taken your better half from you at the beginning of your journey towards life. Many you be blessed in your future endeavors and stay brave like how you are now. Take care

  11. May his soul rest in peace sunayana…..may god give strength and courage to go ahead in ur life…..take care and be strong…….

  12. I feel very sorryvfor your loss Sunayana garu. May your husbands soul Rest In Peace. I pray to god to give you the strength to cope with this situtation. Take Care.

  13. Sorry for the loss and we feel that we lost someone in our own family… am a 8 months pregnant and I cant control my tears and totally understand the place you were in. Be brave and leave rest to god.. We all support you and your dreams.

  14. Sunayana,
    Life is short, who knows better than you!
    You are such a brace soul to share this touching part of your life, with your beloved, whom we all prayed for. I pray to god to fetch you and Srinivas’s family with with strength and peace to bear the immense loss which will never be recovered!
    My mind is numb right now As I write this message to you, I’ll never be able to step in your shoes! But assure you to be part of ur battle, in “STOP HATE CRIME- SPREAD the LOVE”.

  15. Sister Sunayana Srinivas. We feel very sorry for the loss.Tears rolled from our eyes like stream. It is very easy to say all these words by everyone to you. He will always be with you. His soul rest in peace that soul will guide you to fulfill your dreams. We can say only to you take care and fulfill your loving inspirational husband’s dream and wish. . God bless you and gives you strength.

  16. You are very brave …. May God give you the strength at this moment of grief and with your positivity you will definitely fulfil yours and Srinivas’s dreams .

  17. Tears rolled from my eyes may his sole rest in peace
    Sunayanagaru srinija s garu always with you and his soul will guide you . Take care

  18. Words are in sufficient to explain your pain. Hope God will show the path. I am confident you have the will to face the situation. God will take care of you and your family.

  19. May his soul rest in peace and may you find unwavering strength to live your life again. It takes lot of courage to put through what you have been through. Stay strong and keep spreading love. Your husbands kindness will certainly come back to you. Like you even am the baby at my home with 2 elder sisters and my husband is my biggest strength, it’s difficult to imagine on what you are going through. Please take care.

    • It’s a very sad love story.. May God bless you dear Sunayana.. You are a model of love in action.. You are an inspiration of Unconditional love. Death is inevitable, but the love and courage that you’ve portrayed is a truly unique
      May Srinivas’s soul attain liberation.. And Deepest condolences to you and your family.
      Be strong. Be good. Do good. See good. That’s the way to God!

  20. I only can say “STOP NOT UNTIL U REACH UR GOAL” To make ur beloved dreams true. U are a strong women…may god bless u!!!!!

  21. Wish this never happened. Hope you continue to have the strength and god give the courage to achieve and make his wishes come true.

  22. Really it was such a heart melting story.i can feel your pain while reading this blog.may his soul rest in peace and god bless u dear…

  23. All our prayers are with you during this tough time. May his soul rest in peace. You are a really strong woman. This country has been an inspiration for most of us who have come here to pursue our dreams. And I hope and pray that this will and always remain the land of opportunity to fulfil our dreams.

  24. My deep condolence to u and ur family, may Srinivas Garu soul RIP. After reading ur pain from the heart and through the throat I can feel how much ur love to ur beloved one and showing care to the society. I really appreciate ur words stated and for sure u will achieve what u both have planned to do .

  25. Any words or sentences are not enough to console or to reduce your pain what you are going through Sunayana garu, he will be with you always spreading love to you. Keep going forward with the courage and love.

  26. When i saw in TV regarding this incident i felt very sad n tears came out, i can feel the pain of urs sunayana but i can hardly say that u are the person who can give strength to srinivas family ok dont ever feel the gap of srinivas becoz he is with u all the time ok.takecare of u n ur family be brave.

  27. I am almost crying reading from the beginning of the blog Sunayana Garu.its heart breaking,Srinivas Garu where ever you are your blessings reach your wife.Be bold carry on in your life with good wishes which your husband gave you.you should be the inspirational woman…..

  28. Cant stop my tears falling from cheeks while reading …its easy to say to take care of urself but it is a challenge … i wish you to have a courage all the way down …May his soul rest in peace..
    Take care Sunayana

  29. May his SOUL rest in peace, I know how much pain it will be when we lost our dear and near ones and it should not happen to any one. Tears came from my eyes while reading.

    Be Brave and definitely time to rethink of the questions, you have raised and make sure hate-ism should be removed.

    Take care

  30. I am very sorry for your loss. I can feel your pain. No words can really help to ease your loss! Be strong my sister and remember we are all with you!

  31. May his soul rest in peace
    Hope time heals your loss Sunayana
    Be brave but cry your heart out
    Don’t hold it back else it will press you for further years
    Take care,my heart reaches out to you

    With tears in my eyes, I wish you to hold back together and be bold to face the society

  32. No words to express.
    Can feel your pain.
    But soo proud of you as well.
    Be strong dear and spread love in the name of your husband and keep him alive forever.
    We need peace not hate.
    No matter what country…lets spread love and you can soul mate is alive forever.

  33. It was very touching to read this.
    You are a strong lady, Sunayana! Please be strong and make Srini proud of you!
    Take care!

  34. It would be so nice if the tragedy shouldn’t have happened…. I felt really dumb when I saw ur letter…..u r a true inspiration to all of us to tackle such a sad situation bravely…..hope v get justice to his death soon….God bless u sunayana

  35. Dearest Sunayana, I am just an American citizen who is so so sorry for what this person did to your Srinivas, and to you as well. I feel the need to apologize for his action on behalf of my country. The goodness that your beloved was will carry on, and I hope that you feel the love sent to you by so many people. You came to live the American Dream, and deserved it so much. I met many friends of my son’s in Folsom CA who are from India and worked with Jeff at Intel. I so admire the respect, dignity, and spirituality that I saw in each of them. We had good talks, and I was interested in hearing of the culture, the dress, and the traditions of India. It seems that the primary focus of all of their parents was a good education for their children. It sounds like your Srinivas’s parents were quite the advocates! Again, I am so sorry. I hope you find your way through the darkness and into the light. May you be blessed.

  36. May u get stronger and stronger and god and our entire community stay by you in your fight for answers. Rest In Peace Seenu. The love you have for him is shown in every line you hv written . My heart goes out to you and your entire family .
    God bless you sunayana. You have touched so many hearts that this flame won’t die. Keep it going

  37. You have echoed every single aspirant of free world. We all are here looking for the same dream. Your loss is irreparable but your courage should show the path every living person here, not just Indians but everyone in the world. May Srinu’s soul Rest In Peace.

  38. Hi sister, Srini will be with you for ever to comfort you.. I could not stop crying while reading your message. Your words are so powerful … May god bless you to give strength to proceed your life. I will keep you in my prayers…

  39. Rip for Srinivas garu ..may God will help u in all the ways and be strong and prove your self .God bless u evrysecond

  40. Sunanyan I understand how hard it must be to lose a soulmate. The only thing I can say is be strong. Can’t stop thinking about you…

  41. A great tribute from a loving wife! Your write up was so wonderful, graceful even in grief! What a lovely person your husband has been! We stand behind you in your time of distress and per your words, hope no other Indian has to go through what your family has had to! You will go ahead and achieve the dreams of your husband, Sunayana! God be with you!

  42. I have full sympathy for whatever happened and it should not happen with anybody. But still i am not convinced when Sunayana says she would like to stay in US and fulfill dream of her husband after whatever happened. Here it shows selfish motive of hers and if she really wants to do something, she should return back to India and give support to her husband’s old parents.

    • Ram, You are right, Come what may nobody wants to leave American life. She would soon get GC and charity from Telgu association as well from Garmin.

    • I don’t think this is the right platform or your place to say what she should do in her future life. She’s going through a lot and I think you should keep these kind of personal suggestions on what she should really do with her life to yourself. For god’s sake,her soulmate was taken away from her I think you need to stop talking negatively.

    • I don’t think this is the right platform or your place to say what she should do in her future life. She’s going through a lot and I think you should keep these kind of personal suggestions on what she should really do with her life to yourself. For god’s sake,her soulmate was taken away from her I think you need to stop talking negatively.

    • My god! You guys are so sick to even say such things….seems like you never experienced any hardships in life and hence can be so casual and mean about it. And do I see the typical indian male attitude here! She should go back and take care of her in laws……really? Would you do the same if your wife died? Would u really go attend to her parents ever?? Please think a million times before writing such stuff and hurting people’s feelings. She is too shaken to think about anything at this point in life. If she goes back to India, what till happen there? People eventually will say that she couldnt last a single day without her husband blah blah and her husband up there would feel bad for her. This is her choice if she wants to live here or not. And she definitely is not living to pursue an american lifestyle. Right now she doesnt even know how she will live, forget american or indian lifestyle. I don’t know u can even like the person looking back when u see a mirror? Is this the shadow you would like to cast? Does this make you happy?

    • Spoken like a true male chauvinistic Indian guy!! She has a life of her own and need not necessarily spend it with his old parents. She deserves to be here because it reminds her of the many memories they shared.

    • I fully support her stance in going back to US.

      1) By leaving the US you are giving a wrong message to the people who attacked her family and asked them to leave the country.

      2) So, if something like this happens in india and you are told to get out of the region you are in, is that what you are supposed to do.

      3) I don’t get selfish motives here. She will anyway get the money whether in US or in India.

  43. Extremely sad for you and everyone.. It’s a loss for all.. I wish you all the strength and courage in life.. God bless!

  44. This is really a very very sad inccedent, by reading this blog I felt u r really a strong women, please keep it up sunayanagaru. I really had tears in my eyes while i am reading, just like children playing that fellow shoot your loved once. But please stay strong andi please follow your dreams that will make you feel better.
    Now I really thank god as he has give a great gift to humans that’s ‘ forgetting’
    I know u can’t remove srinivasgaru from your heart for ever but the level of pain Vl get reduced as time passes by.
    He really gave you what all an women need to have as you mentioned. Keep going vth them tc. Really u r great you still saying to spread love.. salute to u

  45. Its a Huge Loss, cant be put in words, can only be felt. Sunayana god bless you with immense strength and give you peace and courage to lead life in the best way possible, as dreamt by our beloved friend srinivas. None can replace him and the affection he showered on you. May god be your shadow to protect and take good care of you

    Im still trying hard to stop my tears from rolling down …

  46. Tears in my eyes.. I seriously dunno how to console you.. thz always happen with good people.. I’m so sorry dear… let his soul rest in peace..

  47. Mr.Ram Enugula I plead u not to judge her further step. She lost everything. Srinivas gari parents are remained with 2 more sons, though they can’t occupy their lost son’s place , to some extent they can lead life. There’ s nothing fishing or nothing selfishness in her decision. She wants to accomplish her soulmate’s desire and dreams. Who are we to restrict her in deciding her next path. What ever has happened to her is a fair unjustice act and a heartless fate. Sir, can u say all these if something unreal or unexpected happens to your closed ones?

  48. Hi sister I pray God u get more strength to full fill the dreams of Sinu May Sinu soul rest in peace it is terrible tragedy take care

  49. Hi Sunayana, I can’t control myself crying after reading this blog. Each line shows the immense love you have for him. Being a girl, I understand the pain of losing your soulmate. May god give you the strength to follow your dreams with the insoiration of your love and reach heights. Be strong as you are.

  50. Yes he was so right in saying “Do good to others ….and good comes back to you in return”…the way he lived his life was so inspiring. Uncontrollable after reading it but my prayers are always with you, may almighty bless you and give you strength to fulfill his dreams.

  51. Hi nani…. Pleaseeee be strong.am not able to control myself, because even my husband always hugs me n says wat srinu said n also still am dependent on him even to step out of my house. I dont kw y it happened.God please give her strength.ohh god….!!!!

  52. Dear Sunayana, your pain cannot be really felt by someone who has not gone through the same. Extremely sorry for your loss. At the same time I would like to add that we cannot expect best of every world we land at. Globalization has its positives and negatives. We dont need to go that far, in India itself there are states where outsiders are treated very badly, specially when it comes at cost of unemployment of local community. Isnt it true that in Bangalore the crime rate, pollution and competition for job has increased due to outsiders ?? It is same for every state/country. There are many wives/children/parents who are still crying in pain for their loss…and I am pretty sure that they all had a story like yours to share. So answer to your question is NO, you dont belong there !!. Try everything possible to be in your country first and if it still doesn’t work out venture to other places. God bless u and give you all the strength to move on.

  53. And why do you guys keep bringing up GC all the time? Seems like you need the GC or citizenship so desperately ! And then to comment on someone who is suffering a huge loss in her life. If you had said that she would leave this country because what happened was wrong, I still can understand. But saying that she should leave to take care of her in laws is sick. Right now she needs to be taken care of, not the in-laws. The in-laws are anyways used to living without their son just like your parents are. Basically, you guys cannot take care of your own parents when alive but expect your wives to take care of them when you are dead? is that right? so u are useless alive and dead !!!

  54. I could not stop my tears from my eyes while reading about your husbands story! But then I wish you stay back with your husbands family and take care of them as your husband do.. I feel this will make your hubby’s soul more happy than anything.. Sunayana! May your husbands soul rest in peace! Sadgati and om shanthi!

  55. Ur husband will always be there in ur thought and in ur heart…….all his dreams will be fulfilled through you……BE STRONG AND NEVER GIVE UP…..!! Love and prayers

  56. Missing a lovable person in life is a big pain and his memories are always with you.
    All the best for future career and achieve your dreams.

  57. Sunanyan I understand how hard it must be to lose a soulmate. The only thing I can say is be strong. .. Please don’t go back to america.. you can’t stay without your soulmate. for somedays be with parents and his parents too. see for 6 yrs only you have going through this much pain think about srinu’s parents.. you shouldn’t leave your daughter-in- law responsibilities for your in laws. Give courage to them.. They are also getting old day by day.

  58. God bless you sister Sunayana . my tears rolled down automatically while reading your letter
    No words to say . You have to stay in US and fight against injustice against the cruelty and claim hefty compensation against the government and the person concerned who did this evil.
    You should fulfill your dreams . You are a strong lady, Sunayana! Please be strong and make Srini proud of you

  59. Sorry for this, hope you will be more stronger as the day passes. Be proud to have him for 6 years. Remember he will be with you forever. Try to work on his dreams. Wish God be with you always. Be optimistic and go on in life.
    Please keep in touch with his parents.

  60. You and your husband’s story is so inspiring. It’s stories like yours that hopefully everyone can hear and feel so that we can stop this kind of violence everywhere. Wishing you and your loved ones all the best.

  61. Tears rolled when I was reading your blog.
    May God give you all the strength you need .
    You are a strong woman .Sunayana garu my you are truly inspirational.With such a poise and dignity u handled yourself.I understand how hard it is for you .Very less people have courage like you . I truly salute you .

  62. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time for comfort and healing.
    May almighty God comfort you and give you strength. with Love.

  63. Ammalu sunayana nee letter chadivina taruvata elanti varina chalinchi potaru.neevu nee husband ichichina atmavishwasamto munduku vellamma. Srinivas Kuchibhotla aatmaki Shanti kalagalani , n vaari parents ki ma pragadha maina santapam teluputu bhagavantudu ellappudu meeku toduga vundalani korukuntunnanu god bless you.

  64. God and time will give you strength to pass this toughest time of your life Suna. I very much wanted to be there with you like all your friends . My tight hug to you . Stay strong . Your Srinu wOuld always be proud of you for how you are taking care of everything now.take care. Love you .

  65. May his soul rest and peace ., May God will help u in all the ways and be strong and prove your self.pray god give you strength to face the situation .srinu will be with you for ever to comfort you! Sister sunayana God with you!Jay shree Krishna

  66. I’m Filipino-American though we may raised with different culture I can feel the pain to loss someone who most dear to our heart I was just loss my husband last Jan. 26 2017 too …as you describe what kind of person your husband is I even recall my husband similarity to your spoused too. I was really touched to your story …it strengthen me to jeep moving and never give. Thankyou, may God blessed you with extra comfort.You were in our prayers …..From Emilyn Robles

  67. Sunaysna garu, tears started rolling ftom my eyes when I started going through u r letter. RIP for srinivas garu. May God bless u.

  68. My dear Sunayana, you are a brave young lady. My heart goes out to you.
    Srinivas was an excellent human being & as old as my boys. My heart cries for you but it seems in your brief but beautiful marriage to Srinivas he gave you such beautiful life lessons. I so admire your courage and strength. May God bless you with Srinivas’s love now and for years to come. My prayers & blessings to you.

  69. It was very heart touching and no words to express my pain .rest in peace sir. Sunayana mam , we are always with you,be brave and strong . take care

  70. My First response to the social media!!!

    RIP to your lovely & good hearted person. I could not find the words to console you, however my & my family prayers for you!!!

  71. May God rest his soul in peace…
    There are no words which can take u out of grief… But really u have inspired so many with Ur blog…

    May u get immense strength to fulfill his dreams through your efforts ….

    And people may comment different things … But please do not get affected by them…

    U shared Ur heart and trust me it did reached to many hearts …

    Stay blessed
    And good luck lady

  72. What beautiful and heartfelt tribute, I had tears reading this. May God give you strength to carry on and may you cherish all the wonderful memories you had together.

  73. Be strong dear…when god closes one door he makes sure he opens many more for you. I know n feel that yr loss is irreparable but god has chosen u for this situation since he knew that you can only bear it. You will feel yr hubby’s presence whenever u need him; he has not gone anywhere. You will be more independent; confident; caring and understanding as a person hence forth. God bless you n guide you…just stay positive n strong…..we all r with u.

  74. May his soul rest in peace.This loss can never be recovered.But I pray to God to give u the courage to handle this tough time and bless u to fulfill all ur dreams.

  75. I have read ur post like a thousand times.. feels like seen u both closely.. please let m knw if i could be of ny help to u.. i stay in hyd.. nothing in ths world can replace ur love… m wid u. sunayna..

  76. Dear Sunyana,

    It is very hard to read your story , I don’t have word to express our deepest condolences !
    When I open this page to read my tears rolling down.

    We have to accept the fact and move forward !
    “May Srinivas Soul Rest In Peace”

  77. Each & every situation is pre-planed in this universe. … May b srinivas had planned to sacrifice his life to bring major change in the present situation of the world… wish Srinivas soul return it’s home star with total satisfaction & bliss, for successfully completing his task for what he came on to the Mother Earth…. best wishes to all…

  78. It is unthinkable.
    May the almighty give you courage to bear the loss of one half of yourself.
    Spreading the message of respect and love for the fellow human beings is the need of the hour,as Mother Teresa always yoused to say.

  79. Seenu, your letter really moved me. I read it word for word and the description of your recent tragedy has really “HIT ME HARD” ! I don`t know HOW, WHEN OR WHERE I will be able to meet you someday, I just hope I do, so that I will be able to show you how sorry I am that you have to face such sorrow and grief..that too, in a country far away from your place of birth. Only God knows the answer to this.
    However, if your want, you can email me anytime and be sure, you`ll get a prompt reply from me.

    My sincere condolences to you and all in your grief stricken family.

  80. You are an example of courage and grace. May god bless you and help you reach many heights in your life. Keep spreading the message – Love trumps Hate.

  81. Dear Sunayana, we share a relationship of loss and my heart goes out to you, Srinivas’s parents and your families. My son Major Akshay Girish was martyred fighting a terrorist attack in Nagrota just 3 months back and that he dies saving many others and defending our nation is our only solace. Your loss is like our daughter-in-laws(Akshay’s lovely wife is a second daughter to us) and our little grandchild asks for her ‘hero papa’ every day. Akshay’s twin sister Neha is torn between trying to be strong for us and grieving for her brother. May we all continue to love, live, work and dream as they did. For a world without hate and for goodness over evil. Love, hugs and God bless you.

  82. Our hearts and prayers are with you and the family during this horrible time. I was lucky enough to meet your husband while he worked at Rockwell Collins through Alok. He was one of the nicest people I have ever met. May his soul have peace and may you and the family find some comfort in knowing he touched many peoples lives and made this world a better place.

  83. Its really sad to know about your loving journey with Srinu and his sudden demise. I have seen your interview and now read this blog post, I am sure you will build Srinu’s dreams from where he left. Let God give you all the strengths you need to pursue your goal.

  84. Dear Sunayana, your words depict a brave soldier’s heart whose yet on a mission to serve!! No words can wipe the loss nor replace Srnivas – the embodiement of love..My deepest sympathies are with you and every member who is in trauma of losing the best human, the best friend…Your words penned show how Sinivas tranformed you…truly he’ s in you, around you bcoz people who love us, their soul stays with us…

  85. Dear Sunayana, your words depict a brave soldier’s heart who is yet on a mission to serve!! No words can wipe the loss nor replace Srinivas – the embodiment of love..My deepest sympathies are with you and every member who is in trauma of losing the best human, the best friend…Your words penned show how Srinivas tranformed you…truly he’ s in you, around you bcoz people who love us, their soul stays with us… May God give you the strength to face this great loss..
    RIP Srinivas….Every Indian is proud of you.

  86. Such a moving, loving tribute to a great man by an equally loving and
    brave wife.
    Sunayna , all I can say is that you have shown the world what a wonderful life Srinivas lived and shared , and how he strove to make this world a safer and loving place to live in.
    Although this is certainly a tragedy that no one should ever go through, it is God’s will. In the end, perhaps there is a greater unknown purpose that God has planned. Perhaps through his sacrifice , there may be a greater understanding and love toward us
    ” outsiders ” and less hate going forward.
    Our thoughts and prayers are always with you and your family.
    God Bless!

  87. Dear Nani, falling short of expressions. It’s terrible. It’s a lifetime pain. None can share, even if one desires intensely. But one thing is clear- time is biggest healer. Seek blessings of your parents and in-laws. There arms will always be open for you as will always remain their beloved daughter. Go to US. Join your duty. Rest God will take care.
    Yes, another thing – after every Kali raat, sukh ka savera aata hi hai. Nani , with every passing day, the wounds are healing. I can see from here, my child! Get up, cheer up, move ahead. See the long list you have mentioned, including Ian Grillot, Garmin and neighbours….Should you look back….you will always find your parents, in-laws and….us. God bless my daughter! Remember us for any thing if we can……Be bold……face and fight it out…life gas never been bed of roses….ask Meghna Ma’m…….

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